Monday, 15 February 2016
Quote Of The Week #3
Given that yesterday was Valentine's Day, I looked for a quote that featured an aspect of love, so I came across this one and it was perfect in so many ways.
It was perfect, first of all, for the book it comes from. It's The Perks of Being a Wallflower, by Stephen Chbosky (a must-read if you haven't read it!). It's a book that turned my life upside down, honestly. I questioned everything I thought about myself, and it was so good for me!
I'm gonna say something I haven't said before in this blog. I've been reaaaaaally broken at some points in my life. And I've hated myself more than I can even imagine now (thankfully, because it means that I don't anymore). I once had a friend who was very mean to me. I felt like he understood me because he had been through serious stuff as well, but he was actually using me to feel better. By making me miserable, he felt better. And honestly, I couldn't see it right then. Another friend was telling me all the time "Get rid of him, he treats you like shit." However, I wouldn't listen. I just said "But that's his personality, it doesn't mean that he hates me! He just needs to say that to get the stress out, it's okay."
But it wasn't. It really wasn't. It was taking me down without me even noticing. He eventually did something really mean to me and then disappeared. It took me some months to realise of how he had been treating me. It wasn't until then that I saw it wasn't normal, and it wasn't right.
I was accepting the love I thought I deserved.
This quote is just... true. Now, that's a statement hahaha But seriously, it is! I thought I deserved nothing more than that, so I accepted it! Had I thought I deserved more, I wouldn't have taken it. That's what I've done later, and I don't regret it. Some people are like poison. Their words and actions spread so fast, and they can take over your body. You have to learn to stand up and say no. You are a valuable human being (yes, you), and you deserve happiness and love. And that's it. Anything beyond that is just wrong!
I hope this quote made you think :) And I hope you realise you deserve all the love in the world! Oh, and thank you for all your lovely comments on my last post, there were so many and I'm so happy!
I'll finish with an extra quote, my favourite from the book: So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we'll never know most of them. But even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.
A big big hug!