Friday, 1 July 2016

Letting Go Of What Never Was

And I say goodbye to everything we could have been.

Sometimes, people, or situations, or moments that we yearn for are long gone, and it just takes us a little longer to get used to the idea. We create a future in our heads, everything that could happen, and fall in love with that future. We fall in love with every single detail, we imagine the good and the bad it will bring, just to believe it will eventually happen.

But sometimes, this future was never meant to be. We just don't want to accept it.

So we keep on waiting for that future to come, until our brain finally accepts what had been in our subconscience for a long time: it's never going to happen. And we cry, not only because of that particular thing we wanted, but because of what we hoped it would bring, this life only in our heads. We grieve that lost life.

It's really, really hard. We write songs about it, we write it down, we think it through, and we listen to music to make us feel we are not alone.

Then, finally, we let go. We accept it's not part of our future and let it go. We feel nostalgic, sad, a little empty... and relieved, and free. Because when we let go we see all the new possibilities that lie ahead. And start creating a new future.

We know it could have been beautiful. That's our blessing and our course at the same time. But we can't help it.

Unfinished stories are quite bad, but even though unstarted ones may be even worse, there's a beauty in them. There's this hope we created. There's this memory of something that never happened. This beautiful paradox.

As Éponine says... Why regret what could not be?

A big big hug,


Acqua

14 comments:

  1. Lovely post and so beautifully written. Sometimes the best thing to do is just to let go and move on, and let new and better things come around. I really like your blog, love M xx

    Marina | mylifeasmarinaa.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much! That's so true! xx

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  2. I'm so in love with your writing style, it is so unique and the topics you discuss are such important things and I am really glad you mention them xx

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    1. Aaw that means a lot! Thank you! xx

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  3. This was such a beautiful post, I really needed this reminder today xx
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    1. I'm glad it helped! Thanks Laura! xx

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  4. This was so relevant to my life right now. I recently lost my friends (not my fault), and reading this really helped me to reflect on the fact that, despite wanting them back, i was always sad and stuck in bad relationships xx

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    1. I'm really glad it helped! Thanks! xx

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  5. Such a lovely and relatable post! X

    Amyx Makeupwithmissa.blogspot.co.uk

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  6. I know exactly wgat you mena. Right now I know I should let someone go, I want to, but I just can't and this is making me really sad. I know it's not good I know it's stopping me I know it's pulling me down but I can't cahnge. I can't decide about my Feelings...
    ´Thanks for sharing, it made me feel I'm not alone <3

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    1. It's absolutely normal! It's really, really hard, but then you won't be able to move on until you let it go. Be brave, you can do it! xx

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    2. I hope so!!! I want but I don't know how! I mean how can I Change my Feelings?! :( Thanks anyway!! <333

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    3. It's not about changing your feelings... it's about realising how much of a burden it is. And it really, really shouldn't be a burden. If something won't happen, why waiting for it to happen?

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